Not an extreme case of abuse
Indian Home Maker blogs about women’s problems. Her blog posts are often in the form of a letter from a sufferer. The result is often a barrage of comments full of advice and outrage. It’s a wonderfully interactive blog and I do recommend that you visit it.
This post My story is not an extreme case of abuse or humiliation is a newly wed’s lament about her husband’s lack of support with suddenly regressive in-laws.
Marriage in India is like this only. Tradition and culture are so strong, followed so unquestioningly that marriage unleashes the in-law demon almost immediately. If you want to make your marriage work, and you don’t want a divorce, but you don’t want to suffer through your marriage in a valiant attempt to prevent divorce, work on your marriage.
My advice to this young woman is to enlist the support of her husband. In the first few days of the great in-law clash he turned nasty and took the side of his parents unable to cope with their barrage of insults to his bride. He turned back into the man she had married when she talked to him about his behaviour.
This is the only way – marriage is a series of negotiations and however hard it may be, don’t give up on your husband if he starts supporting his parents’ eighteenth century views on marriage and brides. The day you give up and stop talking( talking isn’t the same as nagging) about your in-laws bad behaviour, that’s the day you take the path to divorce. Either that, or to a life of misery for yourself. Believe me, divorce is better than that kind of compromise.