There’s such a huge number of factors contributing to the failure of relationships. It’s sometimes difficult to navigate one’s way through the rocks. For those who’ve been sexually abused as children it’s even more complicated. Survivors are very likely to get into abusive or co-dependent relationships.
This wonderful blog post from The Wounded Warrior addresses the issue with great sensitivity and thoughtfulness. There’s hope there too as you can see from this quote,
“There is no need to ‘give up on love’ but rather to redefine our perceptions and expectations of what a healthy relationship entails.”
What Lisa Nelson, the author of this post emphasises is awareness and the willingness to work on your issues before a relationship and in the beginning stages of it.
As I have said so often before, Child Sexual Abuse is not that uncommon and it has very far-reaching repercussions on your adult life if you have been abused. Acknowledge this, be aware and do something about it. Break the silence, go for therapy, read as much as you can and get help, specially with your relationships.
- Child Sexual Abuse: Tips and Tools for Communicating with your Child (mhmshuttles.wordpress.com)
- Sexually abused teen ‘lost innocence and all trust in people’ (avictimnomoreblog.wordpress.com)