Divorce Aussie Islamic way

Delhi has some Aussie culture this week. There’s a festival of Australian Documentary Films at the India International Centre. It’s been organised by the The Walkley Foundation showcasing some of their winners.  I found the listing at the last minute on my favourite events website Delhi Events and was out of the house in a flash. I actually reached on time despite it being rush hour such  was my  determination!! Why was I so keen, you may well ask. Well a) I’m researching Australia with great interest and depth and b)since I write about divorce  the first film was a must see. It’s called Divorce Aussie islamic way and is a sensitive offering by  Jennifer Crone – the director. Her production company produces sensitive and groundbreaking work and I tend to agree.   This film looks at those muddied waters and throws some light on all the issues involved.

Couples with different religious customs probably find getting together easier than divorcing – there’s a much greater incentive to be with the person you want to marry than there is to divorce. Divorce is tough and even more complicated when the social and religious customs differ.The film explores Islamic divorce in Australia through the eyes of four or five couples involved. The couples approach the Australian Islamic Judicial Council, an unofficial group of sheikhs based in Sydney – to get their Islamic divorce. They want this in addition to the Australian divorce.

A trailer of the film will give you an idea of what I saw. Made in 2011 and 57 minutes long it takes one through a gamut of emotions.

I first felt and intellectual curiosity.  But this soon gave way to regret and sadness as I saw what the couples were going through and felt the echoes of my own divorce. It came across very clearly that despite the intensity with which one longs for divorce there are sad feelings too, on both sides.

Those who grant the divorce are also affected by what they need to do. One of the Sheikhs said that he prays daily asking god – what have I done? Why do I need to do this?

The film also focused on the impatience of the women, followed by their relief and joy.

Would you watch this film, given the chance? Why?

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About Kalpanaa

Trying to change the world one blog post at a time. I write. It's the best thing I can do. I am the Hanged Man, the Fool, the sometime Magician. Whether I travel in my imagination or in real life I always enjoy myself. I read books, I review. I eat, I review. I watch plays, I review. I have an opinion on everything. At other times I heal people through yoga and/or foot reflexology.

Posted on July 18, 2013, in Culture, Divorce, Islamic divorce, tradition and tagged , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 13 Comments.

  1. very interesting ..do you have link to the complete movie… i would like to see this one.

  2. subzeroricha

    I know many may not understand it and many may find it a little hard to take. But fortunately or unfortunately I have seen quite a few divorce/seperations around me. And I have seen some with happy ends and some with very bitter ones. i want to know what creates that difference? I will of course see the trailer but also need more than just that 🙂

    by the way did I tell you your posts are doing a service to our society. Honestly kudos !!

    Richa

    • Awwww thanks for the compliment Richa.
      What creates the difference between a happy divorce ( if you can call such an event happy) and a bitter one? Restraint and a willingness to remain friends since you can’t be spouses. You know what – this is material for a blogpost. Which I will probably write AFTER the Ultimate Blog Challenge is over 🙂

      • subzeroricha

        and you keep me in loop for the post I would love to hear your views on it 🙂

  3. Thanks for sharing such an interesting resource. This is what I love about the UBC!

    Lisa

  4. I can tell you that it is possible to feel sadness and relief all at once. My first marriage ended after 19 years. As much as I wanted it over in the end, I was also very relieved. I no longer felt burdened by the weight of a man incapable of owning his emotions, his mistakes, his choices, and his decisions. Like Gillian, I am forever grateful for the 2nd chance at truly, madly, deeply. I’ve been married now for 7 years to the most amazing man in the universe 🙂

    Peggy
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  5. In my case there was no sadness at all. I had all of that long before I finally got my divorce. Now I’ve been happily married for 22 years and am only grateful that I was given that second chance.

  6. Have studied Islamic finance which is based on Sharia Laws…Just recently also finished the book by Arun Shourie.. The World of Fatwas… So yes I will want to watch this movie to see how Sharia laws affect marriages and divorces… thanks for sharing the details Kalpana ..

    • It’s interesting because the Sheikhs were so compassionate and actually the couples were already considered divorced since the Australian government had granted the divorce, but each of them wanted an Islamic divorce. One woman said, ‘this is the one that matters to me.’
      I may read Arun Shourie’s book. Although I have a huge pile of books piled up on the floor beside my bed.

  7. I saw the trailer Kalpana. I want to watch it to know what happens in real life outside the bubble I live in. I heard that one line. “I have to pay him?.Why?”. Because he can ask whatever he wants..
    She is already traumatized..how much more will you rip off.. I want to know. And I am awaiting your address, my dear Kalpana 😀

    • I’ll send it to you 🙂
      Well that one line was a bit of a teaser. Each divorce is taken situationally and it doesn’t seem as though the women are being exploited. At least not from this documentary. To know the full facts I’d have to go to Australia and interview women asking for Islamic divorce 🙂

  8. thanks for sharing. Iam going to watch that now!

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