First Wives Club
Posted by Kalpanaa
Sometimes we need to lighten up, specially about divorce – if you’re going through it. You can’t be tragic all the time. It’s bad but it isn’t the end of the world.
A hilarious 1996 film called First Wives Club. does just that. Three childhood friends meet later in life to find themselves in pretty much the same situation – their husbands have left them for other women. They plan whacky revenge…it’s funny and helps you release those emotions without actually chopping up all his ties, or bashing the BMW.
Ummm – I’m writing from the woman’s viewpoint here. One of these days I’ll do a post supporting the emotions of divorcing men. But for today – bear with me.
If you haven’t seen it – watch the trailer here http://www.listal.com/video/10507191
And now – a few quotes from the movie to get you giggling.
Ivana Trump: Ladies, you have to be strong and independent, and remember, don’t get mad, get everything.
[finding empty liquor bottles in trash]
Brenda: Let’s examine the evidence. Look! all bottles and gallon jugs!
Elise: I had guests!
Brenda: Who? Guns N Roses?
Annie: I’m very sorry I ever met you. And I’m sorry that I allowed myself to love you for all those years. I’m sorry that I did nothing but be there for you every minute of every hour and support you in your every *move*. I’m sorry!
Brenda: My Morty becomes this big shot on T.V… He was selling electronics, right? On our 20th wedding anniversary it hits midlife crisis major. He starts working out, he, he grows a moustache, he gets an earring. I said, “Morty, Morty, what are you? A pirate? what’s next? A parrot?” And all of a sudden I’m a big drag. I’m holding him back because I won’t go rollerblading.
Brenda: There she is. Princess Pelvis!
It isn’t a great film. It may not be everybody’s cuppa but it’s certainly funny.
Getting divorced is probably easier if you have a bunch of friends going through it together. Then you don’t lie awake at night thinking
“Oh, the shame.”
“Oh, now everybody knows every last detail about my life.”
No, instead you feel part of a group who knows every last detail about each others lives and you can behave ‘badly’ together. Alone, holier than thou people will hold your hand with tears in their eyes and try to convince you that marriage is forever. And there you are thinking, “I thought so too. I wish I was as lucky as you are. Being divorced doesn’t mean I didn’t value marriage. How come you get to judge me just because I’m getting a divorce?”
In a group you still judge each other, we’re human, but since everybody’s vulnerable you get to judge them back and don’t feel so hauled over the coals. There’s something to be said for it. If you’re lucky enough to find such a group.
About KalpanaaTrying to change the world one blog post at a time. I write. It's the best thing I can do. I am the Hanged Man, the Fool, the sometime Magician. Whether I travel in my imagination or in real life I always enjoy myself. I read books, I review. I eat, I review. I watch plays, I review. I have an opinion on everything. At other times I heal people through yoga and/or foot reflexology.
Posted on July 6, 2013, in affair, Divorce and tagged 20th wedding anniversary, culture related bullshit, first wives club, guns n roses, judgmental, sense of humour, stereotypes, Ultimate Blogger Challenge, unreasonable ex husbands. Bookmark the permalink. 7 Comments.