Do other people know better?
I just read a very well written post about divorce at Divorce – how is it supposed to be done and I couldn’t but help nod my head in agreement.
You have to have great strength of mind to carry through your decision to divorce because everybody and his brother will have an opinion about it. They’ll force this opinion upon you with great gusto leaving you even more confused, puzzled, hurt and feeling unsupported than before.
I’d like to share you with you an extract from a story by Ahdaf Soueif that I happened to be reading. The story is called Satan (which is the name of a kitten).
‘I don’t understand anything. Are you both joking or what? Do you think I’ve gone senile that I can’t get a straight answer from either of you? So my son is crazy; he’s got an armored head. I know that, but I know also that he treasures you like the light of his eyes and he could never do without you. Yes, I know there’s a woman: some low creature has pulled him for two or three weeks; absence does terrible things, child and it was you who chose to put countries between you. I’m not making excuses for him. Don’t ever think that. I am furious with him. I’ve told him and I’ve sworn: after this time I’ll not enter a home of his until things are all right between you. I’ll not enter any home of his unless you are its mistress -‘
This supportive tirade is being flung at her daughter in law, who actually wants the divorce more than the woman’s son. I think this passage illustrates how difficult loved ones make it for us to take the steps we need to take to live our lives as we, within the depths of our soul, know is best for us.