Divorce, once rare in rural America
Divorce used to be very rare in the rural parts of the US. As rare as it is in India, urban and rural. For a long time it was an urban phenomenon only although things are changing now. Women, earlier home makers and stay at home Moms often get a college degree, whereas many men do not and the difference naturally leads them to part company. Women are leaving, because they can, they have the wherewithal to take care of themselves. No wonder rural Indians are not keen on educating their girls beyond a very limited level. Once the girls know better about life and have a way to earn their own livelihood, they just may leave. After all, marriage for most girls in India is not exactly a bed of roses. Once married, women are mostly unpaid maids, who do all the housework, doing hard and thankless labour while churning out babies, preferably male. They’re also on the lowest rung of the pecking order, have no say in what is going on in the family or in the world and are expected to be silent and remain out of the way. Education would change all that.
An interesting point that has been made is that even in the rural parts of the US divorced women feel the kind of stigma that divorced women in India do. One particular divorced 52 year old would make a point to go shopping to the grocery store at the times when she knew nobody was there so that she wouldn’t have to meet anybody. Rings a bell, doesn’t it? I for one don’t like t0 go shopping on sundays, when the shops are full of couples or families doing things together, while I, the Lone Wolfess, skulk around on my own. I know other divorced people who frequently remain on the fringes of life, pariahs thrown out from the community because of their ‘oddness’ in being single.
Do read this New York Times article http://www.nytimes.com/2011/03/24/us/24divorce.html?_r=1&partner=rss&emc=rss