Anti Dowry laws being misused???
Hindustan Times has an ht EXCLUSIVE on dowry laws. Front page news. Please read
Is this news?
Lets pretend Dowry is not a crime! Tantarra! Lets wallow in to our parampara of taking money from the ‘girls’ side.
Thanks to a huge and horrifying spurt in the deaths of young women in 1983 due to harassment for dowry the Indian Penal Code inserted 498 A in the anti dowry section – which concerns itself with physical and mental cruelty against wives by husbands and their relatives. Because of this law inserted in 1983, a great number of in-laws have been jailed after young wives died under suspicious circumstances, such as catching fire or killing themselves.
Now, the ‘scoop’ that HT has got hold of is that there are too many complaints against this law, because so many old in-laws are languishing in jails after the daughters in law so inconveniently died instead of being tough and accepting the centuries old oppression of brides by the family.
Possibly some of the in-laws are innocent BUT since our parampara supports in-laws, supports dowry, supports the oppression of wives by the family she marries into the number of innocent people booked under this law is suspect. Mostly they have done what they are suspected to have done – killed a bride or driven her to suicide. Now, a huge number of people have complained to the law minister M Veerappan Moily, who has seen fit to take a new look at that law. A huge number of complaints is a good reason to question a law that was put into place to ensure the safety of young married women, to ensure that families cherished brides for fear that they would be jailed should she die soon after marriage. Of course a large number of people will complain. Most of India will complain. A law that ensures women’s safety, that does not permit mothers in law to indulge in mental cruelty – unthinkable. NOt only will more than half the population complain (men, plus remember that the skewed sex ratio thanks to female infanticide means there are already more men than women) but also the women who know which side their bread is buttered and join ranks with men in the name of sanskriti.
The reason why this law will be given a long hard look? Because it is being misused by so many women. Ahh! Interesting. They apparently kill themselves so that their mothers in law can go to jail. So nasty of them. Is this our tradition?
Brides are meant to be self-sacrificing, the mother in law comes first. So what if a young woman dies, she can always be replaced. But an old mother in law, poor thing, why should she languish in jail, when she is only doing what every one else does. Being nasty to her daughter in law, asking for dowry. And whats wrong with dowry anyway? Hasn’t she invested so much time, money and effort in her son? How dare a woman marry him and not pay for the entire families clothes, electronic items, cars, furniture – after all, this is the tradition. Plus, mother in law has to pay for her own daughter’s marriage ( meaning dowry) – where will the money come from if the son’s bride does not do what is expected? How will we keep our parampara going? After all, we have such a wonderful culture, we must uphold it and protect it from ‘western’ influences such as women’s rights, safety for women, equality for women.
Mothers in law, unfortunately, often turn into males, they further the male viewpoint and use the power of their age to ally with the male, anti woman viewpoint, forgetting whose side they are actually on.
The Delhi High Court says “being a mother- in-law is not a crime in itself.” Hilarious!!
The mother in law as victim. The High Court stands up for the victimised mother in law saying that women(read harassed brides) misuse this law.
High Court – why not take it on a case by case basis rather than change a law that was put into place for an excellent and rather horrible reason. Why not speed up your handling of cases so that people who are innocent don’t languish in jails?
Why not see to it that lawyers don’t misuse their knowledge of the law to guide their clients to use the law to get the other party into trouble. That’s basically what Indian lawyers are busy doing – looking for nasty ways to screw people so that they need to defend themselves instead of sorting out the actual issue. Pulling the wool over people’s eyes. If this law is changed because of ‘misuse’ it won’t be the twenty something brides who misused it and for whose protection this law was passed. The ‘misuse’ is by that honourable band of people we refer to as lawyers.
We know what they suggest in divorce cases and the kind of filth that gets bandied about. But more about that in another blog post.